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Nola's Feminine Rant

Tess Lockhart

It is impossible to talk to a man

about anything less than happy emotions.

No wonder the ads have women visually purring,

“Ooh, this is wonderful!” all the time.

Anything else would be taken as criticism

of the almighty fragile male ego

that needs constant stroking to stay upright.


The minute a woman needs anything

from a man that he doesn’t feel he can provide 

as hero of his own narrative

is the second all turns to him being upset

that he feels like a loser

because he can’t make you happy.

And it all becomes about him.


Somehow, whatever he did that hurt you

is used against you: 

“You’re always looking for something to indict me.”

You were naked and vulnerable with your feelings,

hoping for some care,

only to have him dress you up in some judge’s robes

that don’t really fit and, indeed, chafe.


You go to bed only to be met with indifference,

hoping to be noticed as possibly more interesting

than phone or book, 

but unless he wants physical intimacy,

all you get is waiting tension 

that coils and releases

only when you hear him snoring.


So don’t bother sharing your feelings with a man; 

you’ll only catch grief

at not being able to be vulnerably seen and heard.

Go talk to a friend instead and just use him for a good shag

without any expectations of emotional intimacy.

Stay removed, or make your own way without him

and when he’s shocked that you’ve left, show him this.


Then maybe you can school him in patriarchal privilege 

that’s provided endless female emotional surrogates,

keeping him infantile, and tell him you understand

why he’s feeling clueless at all this talk of an inner life. 

Because, truth is, you do. And you feel sorry for him,

but not enough to excuse him anymore

from doing the work needed to be a whole human being.


Of course, he’ll dismiss this as from an angry woman,

a sad one, really, who needs a good man

to shelter her in this cruel, cruel world

but who can’t expect to find one 

who’ll live with the likes of her

who doesn’t smile like Donna Reed

while vacuuming in heels and pearls. 


But you will be sashaying, head high, beads atwirl,

down a gaslit boulevard lined with live oaks,

surreal in the dawn’s early fog,

to catch a streetcar named Desire

or Elysium Fields, to the faint sounds 

of a Mardi Gras parade in the distance 

of Ash Wednesday’s long-gone expiation.

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